Ever wondered why most relationship looks envying?, It is my magic nor by years of experience, no!!! It’s from the way the relationship was handled and a relationship can’t be handled correctly without following so laid down rules.
It doesn’t take years of dating experience to understand the unspoken rules guiding relationship and love.
There’s a reason behind these rules: They work; They’re tried and true. Thousands has followed this rules and turned out just fine; they found love and peace in their relationship.
*Rule 1: Friends before lovers* –
The vise versa of this rule has lead to most breakups, As a friend you get to know each other more better. I haven’t seen an open relationship like that of friends. As friends you both wouldn’t hide your flows from each other and in time you’ll get to know what really works out for you both. This is the best of way become lovers but being lovers before friends habours secrets, dirty flaws which you wouldn’t like your partner to know about because of the fear of losing him/her, this isn’t the right ladder for.
*Rule 2: Don’t rate the degree of love your partner has for you with gift* –
As a matter of fact love shouldn’t be decided by the amounts of gift one’s partner give to each other but most persons rate love that way. In the case where a woman think her man doesn’t buy her gifts like other men do, if you follow this route you gonna get your relationship messed up, you know.
*Rule 3: Few friends matter* –
Advice from peers, friends, family on what to do and what not to in your relationship could please shut it down completely. People take a lot and would actually have a word to drop concerning any issue brought to them so “sit, listen, evaluate and decide”, the S. l. E. D only works for pro with fee trusted friends. You shouldn’t definitely expect to make a wrong decision if you’re a type that takes adviced everyway you could forward it
*Rule 4: Do whatever works for you* –
Everything is different so is our relationship life’s, most persons tend to apply what works for others it theirs, which may eventually mess everything up, yeah, you might be right; it might actually work for you or not but to be safe, find what works for you and follow it.
*Rule 5: Every little thing matters* –
These are the major loop holes most relationship had cause they don’t take every single thing important. Little thing things actually matter not only in relationships but in everyday life… Eg; Daily checkup calls, romance, gifts, flowers, vacations,etc.
This 5 rules has gone a long way saving relationships and I believe that it’s gonna work out for you.
If you are able to do all this or keep this rules, trust me you won’t lose or have any relationship problem. Cherishing your partner is all you can do for them.
It seems like common sense, but we tend to shape ourselves based on the other person. Since we want to impress the other person, we may do things or say things that we usually wouldn’t. Being real will help determine if the two of you are a good match. Wouldn’t you rather find out now if it’s worth your time instead of investing years of your time and energy? Be real with the other person. Show them the real you, not the fake you.
2. No Games.
This rule is connected to the first rule of being real. When it comes to a relationship, you can either play around or invest yourself in deepening the relationship. When you play games, your relationship will most likely fall apart. Why invest your heart into the other person, when the other person is all about playing games? This will result in dishonesty, lack of trust and arguments later down in your relationship. When it comes to strengthening a relationship, it’s vital to develop trust, honesty, effective communication and commitment.
Know and understand the difference between men and women.
This rule is very important when establishing a relationship. Men and women are born differently and psychologically, we tend to have different characteristics. Most men enjoy their alone time when they are stressed and uptight, whereas many women enjoy talking out our feelings so that we can let them out. When you don’t acknowledge the differences between men and women, you may butt heads and become frustrated. Eventually, you might just give up because you don’t know what else to do. When you’re able to understand the differences, you will better understand your partner and thus be able to strengthen and deepen your relationship. I highly recommend reading the book, “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” by John Gray. He has helped me in my marriage in understanding more about myself and my husband.
4. Know your partner’s love language.
When you are in a committed relationship, it’s important to understand the way they feel love, and how they express it. When you understand your partner’s love language, you will be able to speak their language. It’s also just as important in knowing your own love language. How do you feel most loved? Maybe it’s through spending quality time together, or by physical touch. A lot of couples lack intimacy and love because they are speaking different love languages to their partner. Once you’re able to speak fluently in your partner’s love language, you’ll be back on track of developing and deepening your relationship. I suggest that you go to your local library and take out the book, “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.
Take care of yourself.
When it comes to being in a relationship, we can sometimes focus so much of our energy and time towards the other person that we forget about taking care of ourselves. Make sure that you take the time to focus on developing your own mind, body and soul. Don’t let go of who you are just because you’re in a relationship. Continue to love, respect and develop yourself